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Mscdex
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I am trying the whole shallow thing. She is in her "I'm thinking about it" stage
Wife will not let me dive without a dive master..
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Tony387
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She's thinking about it? Wow. Diving may not be your biggest problem.
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Mscdex
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I wasn't going to say anything.
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Mscdex
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"Man found hanging from second story window grasping what appears to be a regulator"
Tony387
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Or who believes that marriage is a partnership, not a dictatorship where one spouse holds absolute veto power and the other begs for permission.
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ChickenFried
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Predict away. I'll get the popcorn.
BDSC
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Nothing needs to be said Bro. I know a lot of folks have basically told you to "man up" and go ahead and do it and I agree with them but we both know if your wife controls your diving, she controls most aspects of your life and marriage. I have learned through life that if you don't establish early that you are going to be the man of the house, it ain't gonna happen later down the road.
Hang in there and just keep asking and maybe some day she'll give you the green light. If not, there are a lot of good diving videos you can watch on youtube.
freewillie
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"Hell hath no fury like a women scorned." Shakespeare The Taming of the Shrew. For all those responding about growing a pair and what type of panties I wonder if you are either still single (I wonder why?) or divorced.
I noticed the OP has only 4 dives in year since certification. While the OW cert allows you to dive without an instructor we have any number of threads on SB about diving within your training and experience. It's the experience that your wife is concerned. It would also depend on the experience of your buddy. If your buddy has several dives, is very experienced then your wife would be over-reacting. If your buddy also has 4 dives then your are basically diving with another newbie and that is not necessarily the best combination.
Just to play devil's advocate, if you simply said that you have only 4 dives since certification and would it be a good idea to hire a DM as your dive buddy I'm sure nobody would have made any comments about who wears the pants in the house. You would have received a bunch of yes that would not be a bad idea responses. If you said your dive buddy also has only 4 dives then you would receive many more the two of you should at least dive with an experienced diver or DM responses.
Personally, with less than 20 dives total I was taking my daughter on her first dive since her certification in the tropics on vacation. We were going to dive locally in her first cold water dive in a wetsuit and hood, and in a location I had never dived. I opted for a DM in large part because I didn't think I was qualified enough to supervise her if something went wrong. Imagine that conversation with the wife. Fast forward, we both have AOW certification and don't dive with a DM anymore. In fact, we are planning our vacation dives in Maui this summer and she now has the training to do the Carthegenian wreck at 90 feet. She sat out that dive the last time we were in Maui because she didn't have the training.
I'd rather dive with a DM to start, get the experience, then start to wean myself off the instructor's leash. Get some more training, just get some more dives, and I'm sure the wife's angst will also improve as your skills improve too.
For the record, I'm going on 18 years this June.
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