Sooo, if I become a dive instructor, will it be easier or harder for me to find a diving boyfriend? ;p I need someone to go on diving vacations with me!
I think for women it must be easy. Just stick up your finger and say "available" and 150 guys will line up all drooling on themselves and flexing things in the desperate hope that you will give them a crumb of attention (which, no matter how you slice it, defines, in one pithy sentence, most of human history).
If I did that, the women around me would probably pee themselves laughing. I can hear them now... between bouts of hysterical laughter say, "no no ... wait... say that again!"
Needless to say, most of my dive buddies are men. Strong, muscular, intelligent hairy men with bald heads who take 2 or 3 tanks with them underwater and never say to each other, "whatcha thinnnnnking?"
I love my wife intensely but when it comes to diving, I don't see us fitting like lego.
I've seen other couples try to dive together too and while there are exceptions, most couples don't work together as well as "friends" who dive together. And just so you don't think I'm a sexist prick, one or two of my favorite ever dive buddies (and some of the best divers I've ever had the pleasure of meeting) have been women. It's just that relationships between men are defined by what you do together and if you ask me, that's the best foundation for dive buddies too. Two people working as a team, committed to the sport and committed to the task. Relationships get all foggy that way.
(which probably tilted my hand. Yes, if my wife every falls under a bus, I'm done with relationships). I love everything about intimate relationships but I quite simply wouldn't have the energy to try connecting with another person on the same level I've managed with my wife. Just give me a bunch of hairy guys who want to go diving and i'll figure the rest out alone.
R..
---------- Post added January 22nd, 2013 at 01:40 PM ----------
DM stills get all the goodies
As they should. I DM'd for years and I still have a very deep respect for DM's who commit and become skilled at their craft and can almost invisibly tie the loose ends together and make everything flow.
To me a good DM is an invaluable part of the training team so as far as the goodies go, whenever I get tips or presents from students those things go straight to the DM's. I also (since I have a well paying day job and don't need the money) use whatever "profit" I make in a year to take my CA's out for a night on the town on me. They earned it every bit as much as I did.
This year I'm buying they guy who helps me most often an "IANTD advanced nitrox" specialty for his birthday. He earned it and I still find it weird and unfair that only the instructors in our local area get paid.
R..