Most instructors have been taught a basic level of knowledge of gas loading. Instructors who teach technical level courses, as well as some recreational instructors, have a higher understanding of tissue loading and offgassing.
Many of the rules; ie. 12, 18, 24 hours dive to fly time are guidelines set at very high limits. NOAA advocates another set of rules that actually look at ending pressure groups and actual cabin pressure altitudes for ascent to altitude after diving. The point I tried to make earlier, is that people know the rules they were taught, but they don't neccessarily understand the real data behind it.
You will get all kinds of "The sky is falling." type of guidance from the vast majority of divers. I'll tell you that your instructor and their agency should be your first avenue for furthering your knowledge of something you don't understand. Trying to learn it on the web can be garbage in, garbage out.
If you don't learn what you need to know from your instructor, might I suggest moving on to another level of diving where the specifics are taught to every student.
DAN is a tool, and I'd encourage you to call them when needed. But don't use them as a replacement for good training. A good instructor who teaches for an agency that puts this knowledge in their hands is the proper starting point.
You are absolutely right with these two statements. Read as much literature as you can on a subject. SB is not literature. Then call them if you need clarification.
But the question being asked, while obviously not easy to the original poster, should have had a very simple answer:
Yes, you can fly after a pool dive as long as you didn't live at 10 feet.
Calling DAN to get that answer would have been a waste of good resource and was actually something SB could have answered without the complications of people throwing all kinds of whacked out references to confuse the poster.
I'm sorry if you felt I jumped on you personally. I didn't mean to attack you. I keep that DAN number handy, as I've had to use it in the past to ask about baratrauma to an ear while on vacation once. They were invaluable to me, as they are to others.