Wow, this scares me. If someone isn't comfortable in the water, they should stay on the shore. People panic in unexpected situations when they aren't trained properly. The way to avoid panic is training and practise.
If dive training organizations don't instill divers with confidence in the water, then they aren't doing their job properly. And to be clear, I don't mean ignorant confidence, I mean this: I know I can do something because I've done it and practised it, not only in the pool, but also in the ocean.
I believe dive training organizations do a huge disservice by dumbing training down to cater to people who would rather be entertained than actually taught. PADI's idea that an ESA is preferable to buddy breathing is IMHO, an example of this sort of thinking. Why would someone want to risk an ESA when air is an arm's length away? When I did the OW course, my buddy and I buddy-breathed even though we were told not to. It seemed like an obvious thing to do.
Other things I would like to have tried in my course include:
- running out of air intentionally to know exactly what it feels like (not like what happens when the valve is turned off)
- completely removing and replacing gear at depth to simulate getting out of an entanglement
- Etc.
What I don't get is why most people don't seem to want to try stuff like that so they have confidence to deal with the unexpected things that sooner or later will happen.