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I may be off base (there's always a first time) but perhaps your husband needs more of a challenge and a less controlling dive environment than you can provide for him.
Maybe he wants to be a race horse but finds himself hitched to a plough team? I know as a husband and father (who loves his family) there are times when I want to get out there and run. If I had to go at the pace and comfort level of the wife and kids all the time I would crack. I do things with them but often feel like I am sleepwalking - my skill, fitness and risk acceptance level is far beyond theirs. I am a happy camper because we have both "us time" and "me time" if you know what I mean.
Don't take what I'm saying the wrong way Divemom, there really isn't an excuse for his poor behavior to date and I'm not being dismissive. Unsafe is unsafe. I'm just suggesting another way to look at the situation. Some men (and women too I suppose) need more stimulus than the nice safe family outing can provide. Perhaps if he was given the outlet to push himself, maybe with other more risk attracted divers, he might sow those wild oats and calm down with you and the kids. He might also take direction better from those hardcore divers too as they are doing the dives he is reaching for instead of from his wife who is doing the dives he is running from?
Just a thought, it might (or might not) apply.
Last weekend I was talking with a Dive Con about our oldest starting OW in a couple of weeks. I asked if buddy/hubby and I could audit the class. He wanted to know why so I explained my hubby had been resort certified in 2 days and had no clue about the "buddy system" about "pre Dive" checks or any kind of self or buddy assistance.
He asked if I had any specifics.. and I explained sever instances where these had been an issue on a dive and could have been much more serious if we hadn't immediatly aborted the dive.
He asked what I expected as a buddy and from a buddy... Well, first and foremost was to be there to precheck equipment, dive plan, communication, emergency procedures.. etc.
He told me that I just wanted to "spoil all the fun of diving" ????
When I told him my buddy/hubby generally took off as soon as we were in the water he called me a dive natzi!! Asking what I expected "What, do you expect him to be in sight on the whole dive!!!" When I responded "YES" he was downright nasty saying that was selfish and evil and he was glad I wasn't his buddy!
Am I waaaaaaaaaaaay off base here? I realize most of my buddy habits were learned from a scientific research team.. but ... does staying within line of viz make me a controling natzi dive buddy???
This has been bugging the heck out of me.. and of course my hubby ate it up! Now he feels justified only making sure we are in the same ocean!
I guess you are more reasonable that I. I would have requested by return mail. I think I would have talked with him in person first, tho. Anyway, good luck.Update when I recieve his responce. I asked to have a responce in writing within 30 days.
Last weekend I was talking with a Dive Con about our oldest starting OW in a couple of weeks. I asked if buddy/hubby and I could audit the class. He wanted to know why so I explained my hubby had been resort certified in 2 days and had no clue about the "buddy system" about "pre Dive" checks or any kind of self or buddy assistance.
He asked if I had any specifics.. and I explained sever instances where these had been an issue on a dive and could have been much more serious if we hadn't immediatly aborted the dive.
He asked what I expected as a buddy and from a buddy... Well, first and foremost was to be there to precheck equipment, dive plan, communication, emergency procedures.. etc.
He told me that I just wanted to "spoil all the fun of diving" ????
When I told him my buddy/hubby generally took off as soon as we were in the water he called me a dive natzi!! Asking what I expected "What, do you expect him to be in sight on the whole dive!!!" When I responded "YES" he was downright nasty saying that was selfish and evil and he was glad I wasn't his buddy!
Am I waaaaaaaaaaaay off base here? I realize most of my buddy habits were learned from a scientific research team.. but ... does staying within line of viz make me a controling natzi dive buddy???
This has been bugging the heck out of me.. and of course my hubby ate it up! Now he feels justified only making sure we are in the same ocean!