Aside from all the great advise already posted (trim, relax, slow, no hand swim, etc), one trick that I learned from a cave diver was to slowly hum, yes, it's not a typo, hum into my regulator when I exhale. It relaxes me and and also extends my exhales.
I find that when I'm getting stressed underwater, I'll hum and it calms me down. In a recent training class, I was trying to learn the back kick, stressing about not getting the kick and realizing I held my breath when I was loading my fins to do the back kick, so I forced myself to hum and guess what, I have a back kick.
I find that when I'm getting stressed underwater, I'll hum and it calms me down. In a recent training class, I was trying to learn the back kick, stressing about not getting the kick and realizing I held my breath when I was loading my fins to do the back kick, so I forced myself to hum and guess what, I have a back kick.