DevonDiver
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question for the future night dives, should I hold her hands to prevent this from happening again?
Really... I think the best strategy is to limit your diving and the consequent nitrogen accumulation. Novice divers have skill hiccups from time-to-time, it's nearly inevitable. The idea behind the advice to keep your dives conservative... is to make circumstances more forgiving when those hiccups occur. In short, you can't eliminate the errors, but you can limit the repercussions and consequences of those errors.
Some rudimentary investigation into basic deco theory will help you understand the importance of depth, time, surface intervals and repetitive diving in the context of 'conservative diving'.
I was told during my AWO SSI with the course director not to touch her or hold her hands. Let her swim on her own, which she ascent up too quickly during her night dives...
On a training course, the instructor will seek to promote individual dive skills. Each student has to master those skills. Whilst buddy diving and assistance is a core aspect of safe diving, there is a fine line between buddy assistance and compensating for another's deficits. I can understand why on a training course, the instructor might want to maximise the opportunity for your wife to develop independent skills.
That said, I see nothing wrong with mutual support through something as simple as 'holding hands'. It's a perfectly valid diving technique. Just be wary that over-protection can stifle the accumulation of personal experience and competence.