redstilettos
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Let me start out by saying I am a really new diver (second season, and only about 18 dives or so), so I am not in any way trying to make it sound like I know it all. I certainly do not. Here is my dilemma or concern.
I was certified last year with my BF, but I do not feel he is the safest diver out there. He thinks he is a great diver. I have continually voiced my concern about his buddy skills. He swims much farther ahead than me, rarely looks back (at least from what I can see), doesn't think it is a good idea for getting into the habit of safety stops if we are only down 40' for shorter periods of time, and thinks our communication is super. I disagree.
I feel as though I am on my own down there. On a few shallow dives with just the two of us in inland lakes, there were times I couldn't see him at all, and had to surface 4 times on a 25 min dive to find him. I try to explain I prefer for him to dive next to me and not in front, or at least be within an arms length from me, but he keeps insisting he is doing that. Well I have good vision, and with medocre viz I think he needs to stay within eye contact.
He is an airhog, and uses a larger tank to keep our dive about the same. Recently we went and did a dive in the Bahamas. He was running very short on air (I still had 1400-1500), so we signaled to the DM we were heading back. I indicated we would still do a safety stop. He was not happy, but finally settled down until our minutes were up. By the time we surfaced, he was down to less than 100#. He started to take off without me, ran out of air on the surface, and was only about 1/2 way to the boat. I kept swimming as fast as I could to get up to him, but he wouldn't stop. He basically did a back float to the boat. I still had tons of air for the two of us left.
Once I got on board and caught my breath I tore into him (just us were on there other than the capt). And he still couldn't figure out why I was upset. I had PLENTY of air for the two of us to have a normal safety stop as well as a leisurely swim back to the boat. But he doesn't listen to me.
My concern in the back of my mind is he really is just a loose cannon down there, and I am not really sure how good of a safety buddy I have with him
Do I have reason to be concerned, or am I just nervous because I am new?
help?
I was certified last year with my BF, but I do not feel he is the safest diver out there. He thinks he is a great diver. I have continually voiced my concern about his buddy skills. He swims much farther ahead than me, rarely looks back (at least from what I can see), doesn't think it is a good idea for getting into the habit of safety stops if we are only down 40' for shorter periods of time, and thinks our communication is super. I disagree.
I feel as though I am on my own down there. On a few shallow dives with just the two of us in inland lakes, there were times I couldn't see him at all, and had to surface 4 times on a 25 min dive to find him. I try to explain I prefer for him to dive next to me and not in front, or at least be within an arms length from me, but he keeps insisting he is doing that. Well I have good vision, and with medocre viz I think he needs to stay within eye contact.
He is an airhog, and uses a larger tank to keep our dive about the same. Recently we went and did a dive in the Bahamas. He was running very short on air (I still had 1400-1500), so we signaled to the DM we were heading back. I indicated we would still do a safety stop. He was not happy, but finally settled down until our minutes were up. By the time we surfaced, he was down to less than 100#. He started to take off without me, ran out of air on the surface, and was only about 1/2 way to the boat. I kept swimming as fast as I could to get up to him, but he wouldn't stop. He basically did a back float to the boat. I still had tons of air for the two of us left.
Once I got on board and caught my breath I tore into him (just us were on there other than the capt). And he still couldn't figure out why I was upset. I had PLENTY of air for the two of us to have a normal safety stop as well as a leisurely swim back to the boat. But he doesn't listen to me.
My concern in the back of my mind is he really is just a loose cannon down there, and I am not really sure how good of a safety buddy I have with him
Do I have reason to be concerned, or am I just nervous because I am new?
help?