I'm going to reply with my instructor hat on in that I'll recount what I see with my divers:
I don't actually exert very hard or kick very fast, but seem to get a lot of thrust. My usual technique is a slow, sweeping flutter kick with my knees all but locked and everything coming from the hips.
When I've had strong swimmers in my courses (and I've got a triathlete coming back to me for his third course in a couple of days), I've observed that they tend not only to have powerful kicks, but they
don't ever stop kicking. Competitive/strong swimmers are disciplined and drilled to kick continuously when using a flutter kick. In scuba I impress on my students
not to kick continuously, regardless of the kick style they employ, but instead to kick and glide, even with a flutter kick. If the power stroke is strong, then the glide will be long. One of my early students was a strong swimmer, and she really poured it on when she was doing the underwater compass skill--I had to work like crazy to keep up with her. These days I emphasize going slow on that skill so that I'm not wearing myself out chasing them all over the ocean!
To borrow a line from a great song, "move like a jelly fish, rhythm is nothing, you go with the flow".
"If you would only listen you might just realize what youre missin,' youre missin'" [seeing marine life]
. (Borrowed from the same song.)
DH swims much faster than I can, so we've agreed that in general he'll swim slightly behind me. You can do the same -- let the slower diver set the pace.
Yes! When I'm leading dives with my new divers, I tell them they
have to stay behind me. Generally they complain after a dive that they need to keep swimming in circles because they pass me and they need to get behind me over and over. This really impresses on them the need to
stop kicking and take it easy. By the time my Open Water students finish the fourth dive, they're slow enough, and because they're slow, they have had to get a good handle on their buoyancy since they can't rely on forward movement to "fudge" it and stay at on depth.
Having said that there's nothing at all wrong with this technique!
As I got to the incline up from the deep end to the shallow end, I pulled my shoulders up a couple inches along with breathing deeper to rise with the pool floor. Likewise, going from shallow to deep, I bent down at the waist in line with the slope of the pool to descend (like a mini duck dive) as I exhaled deeply. At worst, I'm probably 25 degrees off horizontal.
You don't have to be horizontal and float up or down when you go up or down an incline--you can swim up or swim down, just as you did. I love doing that duck dive thing when I get to the edge of the wall past a reef flat and descend straight down (the scene in Avatar where they're riding the dragons and swoop down the sides of those floating islands is what it reminds me of).