Here is the best part about filling in cave country. If you meet someone who had a PST 104 fail hydro, please let me know. There are tanks down here that have been pumped to 4,000 psi for years on a semi-daily basis which have no problem with hydro. Some friends in the UK say they put 4,000 psi in the OMS tanks there because they are rated higher.
In cave diving the high pressure tanks aren't dove for two main reasons. 1 is buoyancy issues, but the main reason is that all steel tanks are pumped to what the high pressure tanks are filled to and beyond in some places, making a LP 80 basically the same as a HP 120.
As to diving the same tanks as your buddy, this isn't critical. Being close is great, but not overly critical. After more reading and instruction on cave diving procedures, you will understand more about 1/3's and when to turn a dive due to gas supply (the most common reason for us to turn a dive).
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