MeiLing
Contributor
Jersey,
One thing I want to point out to you is that if things aren't going well in a relationship, something about a trip together tends to magnify the negatives and things can go pretty badly. A trip together won't heal what's wrong and typically a lot of guys don't communicate well that things are over or ending in the relationship. They pretty much leave the gal to figure it out on her own.
Before I get bashed, I will agree that some women can muck it up pretty badly in this respect too, but I think that guys are statistically more likely to do handle a breakup in this manner. For one gal I know, her husband got himself restationed to Germany without discussing it with his wife. They owned a home in Honolulu to boot! Kept telling her he was going to find a job for her there. She figured out that it was over when she called the guy at work one day (in Germany), got his boss on the phone who asked how much longer she was going to take to make a decision about a job he'd found for and had been holding for some time. She's an RN. Apparently, hubby never told her about the job. I think she filed for divorce that day!
For the lurking guys who'd be tempted to do such a thing, I have some advice. Don't leave behind anything you might want! I know, I am now the proud owner of the better part of his extensive classic rock CD collection!
One thing I want to point out to you is that if things aren't going well in a relationship, something about a trip together tends to magnify the negatives and things can go pretty badly. A trip together won't heal what's wrong and typically a lot of guys don't communicate well that things are over or ending in the relationship. They pretty much leave the gal to figure it out on her own.
Before I get bashed, I will agree that some women can muck it up pretty badly in this respect too, but I think that guys are statistically more likely to do handle a breakup in this manner. For one gal I know, her husband got himself restationed to Germany without discussing it with his wife. They owned a home in Honolulu to boot! Kept telling her he was going to find a job for her there. She figured out that it was over when she called the guy at work one day (in Germany), got his boss on the phone who asked how much longer she was going to take to make a decision about a job he'd found for and had been holding for some time. She's an RN. Apparently, hubby never told her about the job. I think she filed for divorce that day!
For the lurking guys who'd be tempted to do such a thing, I have some advice. Don't leave behind anything you might want! I know, I am now the proud owner of the better part of his extensive classic rock CD collection!