Originally Posted by GeorgeC
Evad,
The thread is not SCUBA related, per se. However, the thread is the backbone of the way we disseminate information on the board.
Evad,
This thread is not about SCUBA, per say… (We are not talking about regs, profiles, BC’s etc.)
..the thread is the backbone of the way we disseminate information on the board. (This thread is about the basis of how we provide/give/communicate information strictly related to SCUBA)
I don’t know where you are going with this question and don't know if you are following your own advice about feeding the troll.
Original posting of this thread:
GeorgeC:
Here is the question..Why in the world from time to time, more frequent than less, do we bash the crap out of each other with crass remarks and holier than thou attitudes, making fun of one another and exclaiming this is the only and right way to do things? I wonder if we were on a dive boat would we say the same thing?
George, thanks for starting this thread! It's turned out to be quite constructive, after all, with lots of practical suggestions how to deal with posts that attack personally or are otherwise non-constructive. It's been a good focus on how to get back to disseminating information (or ideas), which is one of the main reasons many of us are here, IMHO.
However, I initially had a concern that your original post appeared to imply that bashing is prevalent on ScubaBoard ("more frequent than less").
To the contrary, I think the vast majority of topics elicit minimal bashing, if any at all, and that bashing is
not prevalent on ScubaBoard. I agree with others that a few topics bring out a great deal of bashing, but it's relatively rare compared to other boards, thanks to the cultural standards created by the moderating of ScubaBoard. :worship:
NetDoc:
Too often those who abuse people on the Internet just don't see it as such. They hide behind their concept of being brutally honest, but it's obvious to most that they are merely in love with being brutal.
This is the core issue. People who bash or try to diminish others really can't make a good argument that it's primarily intended to be helpful, since other approaches are often much more "helpful". The primary motivations, rather than trying to be helpful, often seem more self-serving and/or destructive....
I lurked for nearly two years before joining SB, in large part because of what I had heard about the membership's propensity for bashing people with divergent opinions. My experience here is that the mods do a great job of not letting threads spin out of control and that the report buttons get a prompt response. In general, I choose not to engage with people who bash others other than to clearly state my opposing opinion to something I believe to be damaging rhetoric. But I know when to walk away and do. No need to feed the trolls.
I agree that there is often a real disconnect between someone's internet personality and their real world personality. It seems to me that the internet is a breeding ground for any existing psychopathology in an individual. I have met some individuals who were perfectly decent in person and who became entirely different and frightening people in the context of the internet. The internet became their "mask" for some aspect of their personality that they could not express face to face or even in a live conversation. I'm sure the opposite can also be true.
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There will always be an element like this in any internet environment. Poor communication skills get even worse in an environment that shields the individual from perceived accountability. This is a very sad way to live, IMHO. Thanks for keeping the environment here civil and all inclusive.
I don't have much to add to the good observations and good advice already given, but I agree wholeheartedly that many of these bashing comments stem from personality conflicts and it's best to just ignore them.
There's the old truism that when someone tries to hand you the end of a "tug-of-war" rope, you don't
have to take it....
On the other hand....
....when combativeness and/or arrogance get
too excruciatingly annoying to just ignore, I find it's
sometimes worth the effort to carefully and tactfully re-frame the issues and objectively ask for examples, clarification or citations of references.
Even if that doesn't move the discussion away from the personal attacks or the "tug-of-war" and back to being objective and constructive,
at least it may expose what the bashing was really about.... a personality issue!
Dave C