Your message echoes exactly where I was at a few years back: a relatively competent and experienced AOW diver that was struggling to find competent dive buddies who were interested and able to dive as often as I wanted to.
The good news: A lot of things started happening within 6 months of my AOW certifications that solved the problem. Perhaps some will be of help to you:
1) I scanned the "buddy wanted" section of a local dive magazine that comes out monthly, contacting a buddy that sounded like he had similar interests and abilities. He ended up being a bit annoying 'above water' but, because of the ad, introduced me to two other divers that also joined us on a group dive trip to a local spot. These two divers had the same opinion of the guy ... and ended up becoming regular dive buddies of mine.
2) I took an extended warm water trip organized by a local dive shop ... it's amazing how a week straight of diving with a group can help you get to know folks (I knew no one other than my buddy before the trip) and their dive habits. A couple of divers from the trip also became regular dive buddies of mine, although I had to make the first few invitations.
3) I kept taking classes ... it seemed the more advanced they were (Rescue, Nitrox, and Master) the more the divers that took them with me were similar to my abilities, interests, and focus on safety. I've done over a hundred dives in the past year with three folks I met this way.
4) Join a dive club affiliated with your LDS, and attend meetings and local 'fun dives' regularly. Aside from helping me stay connected with other divers, it led me to become an officer of the club, which has given me more opportunities to dive with buddies than I can accomodate.
Common to these 4 was that I usually had to be the initiator of the first few dives with folks...and then they began seeking me out on a regular basis. I think this happened because I took buddying & safety very seriously, and it showed in my diving. It didn't hurt that I occasionally brought enough coffee and donuts to share ....
Finally: 5) I'm not sure if you are contemplating solo diving or not. For me, it was part of solving the dilemma of "great conditions / I have the time / no dive buddy." Solo diving is not for everyone, but I found that it really increased my focus and, ultimately, confidence. I researched it thoroughly, bought the redundant gear, and 'eased' into it at my own pace. While I prefer diving with a buddy, about 20% of my dives are solo these days.
Good luck