Geek,
No worries, I dont take your post as a flame at all. I agree that it was dumb of me to stay with this instructor (I still take he was not a DM because I see on my certificate that he signed that he has teaching status PADI instructor for that current year). I am really glad I didnt panic down there. I realised very well that he was the only one I could rely on in case I needed air
I know that it was stupid to stay with him and I assure you I will never keep diving with a fool like that!
I dont think I put my buddy in a dangerous position. HE (plus the 2 other guys AND the instructor) was the one who left without me in the first place. I never saw him again until I descended to 17 metres. He was waiting there for me. Remember, he didnt notice I wasnt even there until he was at 17 (!!) metres. We were only buddies for the next few metres and saw perhaps only 5 metres of the wreck together.
My buddy didnt ascend on his own. We were with the 5 of us. My instructor appointed new buddy pairs when my buddy was low on air. My buddy went up with the two others, plus another instructor (who was diving there as well, just as an extra instructor I guess). I was the only one who continued with the instructor because I hadnt used as much air yet (Im not a big girl either, so I guess I didnt use as much air as those guys either).
I think it is alright to appoint new buddy pairs. This happened as well in another place I dived. When the others were low on air, they ascended and I kept diving with the dive master. The difference is that we did discuss this before we went diving though
The lesson I learned from this is clear I guess
Talk about the dive and stick to your plans, as someone else said.
Watersprite
PS. Mike: I sent you a PM.