Just to clarify things, I would NEVER give a new diver a hard time for making a mistake, not following protocol, not understanding the importance of self reliance or any of the other things that get jumped on here. I have been posting here for a long time, you can see that I'm always very welcoming to new divers. I understand that things that are obvious to many of us simply aren't clear to people who have been trained in different environments, or who have been taken under the wings of well meaning, experienced divers. So while you did something dangerous, that's more on the experienced divers and pros who facilitated that, IMHO.
The thing that I found awful about your post, Land Fish, wasn't any of that. It was the implication that the rules were different for girls, because people treat girls differently. Don't mean to get up on a feminist soapbox, I have no right to do that.
But since so many of my dive buddies are "girls" and amazing, accomplished divers, and since I literally trust them with my life, the implication that there is some sort of lesser standard for female divers is particularly irritating.
Maybe you didn't mean it that way, maybe I'm off base, but that's certainly how I read your comment, and I'm not sure how else to interpret it.