Not to tangent off topic, but I was curious...So your wife has 100 dives and yet has only gone deeper than 60 feet three times? When I first read "new" diver with 100 dives I was thinking that wouldn't necessarily make her new in my book, but if she has 95 dives at less than 60 feet for ~30 minutes/dive, I guess 100 dives like that can provide a much different skill set than say doing 50 dives at 80+ feet for 50 minutes/dive for the same 100 total.
Kinda fits with the earlier comment where someone mentioned that a diver who's been "doing it for 30 years," but only doing a few dives per year, will have much less experience and knowledge (likely) than a 5-year diver who does 50 dives/year in deep, cold, current, etc. So you can't get much from the person who says, "Listen to me...I've been diving for 30 years." FWIW, I still agree that unless you are dropping off the wall uncontrollably (or the other mentioned reasons like unconsciousness), there is no reason for a one diver to put their hands on another diver.