LarsB
Contributor
I actually did "debrief" her, in a friendly way, and told her I never knew where and who she was among the crowd, and that this was precisely the reason why I had asked her to carry a marker light, during briefing, which she had refused.I think a pre-dive briefing/post-dive debriefing is an EXCELLENT idea! Dive agencies tell you to plan-your-dive/dive-your-plan, but don't really encourage anything more than that. Besides the obvious benefits, it would be a easy place to talk about buddy behavior without being confrontational. You could tell them you lost contact with them without pointing the finger. You could also see how they respond to feedback. This could simply be a "I need your undivided attention" for a couple of minutes before/after dives. There's a lot of good information you could get in a debriefing. I wish dive agencies would push this more.
Her reaction during the debriefing was something like, "Oh sorry, I didn't know".
I don't wait for the dive operator to encourage an individual briefing or debriefing, but will do it anyway if possible, even a very brief one some might not even count as briefing/debriefing.
But it is true many operators do not encourage it, or make it even difficult due to the way they handle things, e.g. when there is no time given between THEIR briefing, the order "everybody get ready" and the "dive dive dive", e.g. in a drift dive.
This simply doesn't give you a moment of calm with your buddy to agree on any additional arrangements/plans.