A conclusion I have reached, over 25 years of doing this, is that users that are subject to lengthy bans (anything over a week) do not return as productive contributors. They do one of three things:
- Most commonly, they leave the site altogether.
- They return under a different identity and try to adopt another persona to avoid detection.
- They return, but are angry about what they perceive as unfair treatment, both for the ban itself and the real or imagined "short leash" or "double standards" they are kept on. Typically this ends in another ban.
A very good summary. One additional point to re-emphasize, that may help the discussion: bans, of any magnitude or length, are usually something that occurs WAY down a long road. I really don't want to
ban anyone from anything on SB, for any length of time. So, by the time we get to a ban of some sort, a lot of effort has already gone into trying to communicate with a user, to point out what issues we are having with their style, and their approach to interactions on the board. From my perspective, notwithstanding the good intentions of a Mod trying to 'counsel' a user, even that level of engagement (i.e. far short of any ban) will in a few cases produce outcome 3., above - the user is angered by the attempt, and their subsequent behavior becomes even more hostile, not just to other users, but now to the Mods as well. It is unfortunate when that happens, because it not infrequently leads to a series of short vacations, and eventually a permanent vacation from SB. Fortunately, that is the less common outcome, but it does happen. Most of us don't want to have our 'hand slapped'. That is human nature. I think the impersonal character of the web makes the slap feel worse, and also makes it easier for the user to let their anger roam freely. In an
ideal world, everyone would understand that a cautionary PM is simply an attempt to help the user be more effective as a SB participant. That actually happens more often than not. Users respond, 'Thanks for the heads-up. I didn't think my comments were that bad. But, I will be a bit more careful going forward.'
The world we live in is far from ideal, however. So, here's a sanitized hypothetical example of the less than ideal: two users repeatedly get into personal bickering, across multiple threads, with one repeatedly accusing the other of being incompetent, of not having the experience he claimed, etc. The two of them routinely derail otherwise informative threads. So, a Mod sends both of them a friendly PM, asking them politely to 'take it outside' - if they have some personal dispute or antagonism, please address that outside of SB threads. Unfortunately, the responses do justice to 6 y.o. children - 'he started it', 'it isn't my fault, he looked at me wrong', etc. What one, or both, could say in a PM reply would be, 'OK, you're right. I can't stand that guy, he's a complete idiot, but that's between the two of us, and I don't need to make it a public issue in SB threads.' A reasonable response, no public condemnation invoked, problem solved. But, that doesn't happen. One of them in fact replies that the problem is really with the Mods, not him, and that the other user should have already been banned for posting bad information (aka, information with which he didn't happen to agree). That user has some subsequent posts moderated - by several different mods - in response to Reports submitted by other users. After that, he starts complaining about the Mods 'whining' at him, and being 'biased against' him. You can guess the outcome. Short vacation, another short vacation, a longer vacation, and finally, a permanent ban. Reading 2airishuman's informative summary, I think the ultimate outcome in such a case is probably predictable after the first response to the PM.
But, we will still at least make an attempt to salvage the situation.