ewaiea
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I got married about a year ago and I accepted my wife's daughter (now 7 years old - was 5 when we first moved in together before getting married) into my life. I hear many step families dissolve before the 2 or 3 year mark. My wife and I have irreconcilable differences about how to discipline her daughter, I think she is too spoiled and needs more discipline and not to be cottled so much - her mom thinks otherwise. My step daughter doesn't call me "dad" (which I'm pretty much fine with) but my wife insists that I refer to her as "my kid". Her dad is still in the picture and only sees her maybe one afternoon per month - big woop! She's only 7 but has an attitude problem that I do not see as getting better - I know its early but I just have a gut feeling she's going to grow up being a spoiled bimbo. Everything we do must be on her terms and her outright sense of entitlement just drives me nuts!
It has become apparent that my presence may be stressing the dynamic between my wife and her kid and things might be better for us all if I was not around. My wife and I get along more like friends than anything, there is little to no intimacy anymore. It's been months since we've even had sex! And the marriage is still in its infancy!
I really do not want kids of my own and would never again date a woman with kids or a woman who wants kids. My biggest mistake in my opinion was assuming that I could be a step parent in the first place - we all make mistakes but I wish I had not made this one.
I had a vasectomy 3 years ago (when I was 27), I thought I could be a step parent but I am having serious doubts.....
I know I'll catch alot of hell for this and may be called a deserter, a jerk, a guy who turns his back on committment, but I'm just speaking the truth and would like to see if there are any step parents out there who are going through the same thing or have dealt with this before??? I love the idea of marriage, but after my last 2 years of exposure to raising someone else's kid, I only like the idea of a childless marriage. Might there be someone out there who can relate?
It has become apparent that my presence may be stressing the dynamic between my wife and her kid and things might be better for us all if I was not around. My wife and I get along more like friends than anything, there is little to no intimacy anymore. It's been months since we've even had sex! And the marriage is still in its infancy!
I really do not want kids of my own and would never again date a woman with kids or a woman who wants kids. My biggest mistake in my opinion was assuming that I could be a step parent in the first place - we all make mistakes but I wish I had not made this one.
I had a vasectomy 3 years ago (when I was 27), I thought I could be a step parent but I am having serious doubts.....
I know I'll catch alot of hell for this and may be called a deserter, a jerk, a guy who turns his back on committment, but I'm just speaking the truth and would like to see if there are any step parents out there who are going through the same thing or have dealt with this before??? I love the idea of marriage, but after my last 2 years of exposure to raising someone else's kid, I only like the idea of a childless marriage. Might there be someone out there who can relate?