jeraldjcook:
The key to enjoying vacation dives is to find a buddy with the same profile/mindset as you.
As with all things in life, finding those people that think about anything specific the same way you do is the trick. I agree with jeraldjcook, and would like to say that I have yet to meet a DM who would not reassign you to another budy, if not him-/herself, if nobody else can fit your diving restrictions/needs. That of course does not mean those DM's do not exist, I just have not seen all that many around, ever, yet
. I find most divers are too tightlipped for their own good and rather choose to keep ye ol' yap shut even though they may have legitimate concerns that should be voiced
before launching on the dive.
Finding that buddy "with the same profile/mindset as you" means that as a responsible diver I have to blow the whistle hard and loud if something in the dive plan "dished out" before the dive does not suit my particular concerns. The lesson then perhaps is to not only open your yap underwater with that tank banger or underwater duck siren when your buddy unwittingly/accidentally/obliviously/ignorantly/idiotically (pick one for your scenario) deviates from the agreed dive plan, but also when the plan is
being made, and certainly afterwards if he/she screwed up the plan - take an
active role in planning the dive and don't just hop along for the ride.
I think kjunheart's problem is a difficult dilemma, one that many of us face often in many different variations, I just also think that the best solution is clear, direct, unsweetened communication pre, mid, and post dive.
To yap, or not to yap? That is the question.
My Answer: When in doubt, yap your fins of 'till you feel comfortable with all the logistics for every dive. Plan hard, dive easy