Married but single Diver what to do?
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Get certified....then, when you go to Disney next time, book the SeaQuest at the Living Seas at Epcot. I just got back and will say that it's a really cool dive. It gives the non-divers in the family a chance to interact with us while we are underwater. My wife still has no strong urge to start diving, but my daughter was FULL of questions, including the big one.......when can I learn?
Maybe the only thing I can add is the Riviera Maya as it has lots of 'cultural & archeological' places to visit as well as beaches and good food. You can do ocean dives and cenotes, and some of the cenotes also take snorkelers so your wife will have something to do.
Another place would be Sint Maarten/Saint Martin where the diving is not spectacular, but you can still have enjoyable dives and it has incredibly nice beaches and pretty hikes, as well as very good duty free shopping (if your wife likes that).
Other than that, the suggestions of diving in the mornings and spending the afternoons with your wife doing something else sounds like the perfect 'meet in the middle' solution.
Mostly it will depend on what your wife enjoys to do if she has to do it on her own, some destinations are very non-diver friendly whilst others are not.
good luck and pm me if I can be of further help.
cheers,
Another place would be Sint Maarten/Saint Martin where the diving is not spectacular, but you can still have enjoyable dives and it has incredibly nice beaches and pretty hikes, as well as very good duty free shopping (if your wife likes that).
Other than that, the suggestions of diving in the mornings and spending the afternoons with your wife doing something else sounds like the perfect 'meet in the middle' solution.
Mostly it will depend on what your wife enjoys to do if she has to do it on her own, some destinations are very non-diver friendly whilst others are not.
good luck and pm me if I can be of further help.
cheers,
Another idea is an All Inclusive resort. Iberostar Cozumel has a great dive center...Dressel Divers. They also have a dive center at the Barcelo in Riviera Maya.
One of my favorites is Scuba Caribe at The Palladium in Akumal and in Playa del Carmen. The All Inclusives offer many choices for activities and entertainment at no additional charge. Playa del Carmen has great shopping, etc. Do your dives before noon, and then go to Tulum to watch the sun set together at the end of the day.
Good Luck!
DD
One of my favorites is Scuba Caribe at The Palladium in Akumal and in Playa del Carmen. The All Inclusives offer many choices for activities and entertainment at no additional charge. Playa del Carmen has great shopping, etc. Do your dives before noon, and then go to Tulum to watch the sun set together at the end of the day.
Good Luck!
DD
Hey Shaka, you suggested the poster "get a girlfriend that dives" do you mean in addition to his wife, or instead of>>>LOL just kidding
gussys
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Im in the same situation. My wife just wont dive and prob shouldnt as she is prone to panic attacks. We are looking into going to some place that I can get her a gide to go out bird watching while I dive during the morning. I think the key is to make sure she has more to do than I do so I wont have to worry that she is just sitting in the room. Were looking in to Tobago.
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Not married, but engaged, and in the same situation. Here's what works for us...
We go to the islands, and I'm working on getting her to go to Australia with me. It has been my experience that if I dive, say 6 out of 8 days or so of a vacation, 2 tanks in the morning, there is really no problem at all. I leave at 8am and get back around noon. This is a perfect time for her to sun herself, something I have no inclination to do. When I get back, we eat lunch and enjoy our day together. She loves the pictures and it gives us yet another thing to yap about.
I would be careful in picking places to go. I.e In going to the Bahamas Nassau might be great, but Bimini would not be because Nassau has other stuff to do. Grand Cayman is similar, where as the Brac would probably be a bad choice.
We go to the islands, and I'm working on getting her to go to Australia with me. It has been my experience that if I dive, say 6 out of 8 days or so of a vacation, 2 tanks in the morning, there is really no problem at all. I leave at 8am and get back around noon. This is a perfect time for her to sun herself, something I have no inclination to do. When I get back, we eat lunch and enjoy our day together. She loves the pictures and it gives us yet another thing to yap about.
I would be careful in picking places to go. I.e In going to the Bahamas Nassau might be great, but Bimini would not be because Nassau has other stuff to do. Grand Cayman is similar, where as the Brac would probably be a bad choice.
Gussys, one of my colleagues is an avid bird watcher and came back from both Belize and the Riviera Maya (separate trips) raving about all the birds found in both places that he had not seen before.... just an idea.
cheers,
cheers,
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I've managed to stay married while getting in about 80 dives per year in tropical places by using combinations of the following:
Take the 6AM boat that returns at 10:30AM. Wash your gear at the docks and be ready to do things with your wife immediately upon returning.
Do lots of sightseeing and activities. Then she will be happy for a quiet morning to sleep in while you are off diving.
Dive every other day, or at the most, 2 dive days followed by 1 full day with her.
Shore dives have the advantage of taking less time than mosts boat dives, and you have the advantage of getting one in at short notice.
Night dives that interfere with dinner plans are a no-no.
Bring others along. When her 2 sisters come along, she barely notices I'm gone as long as I show up for dinner, and also set aside a couple days to play tour guide.
Pick places that have more to do than just dive.
Alternate between solo dive vacations and vacation to a destination she wants to go to.
Bad weather days are family days.
Keep things in perspective and explicitly communicate on how to best coordinate so that you both have a good time.
Take the 6AM boat that returns at 10:30AM. Wash your gear at the docks and be ready to do things with your wife immediately upon returning.
Do lots of sightseeing and activities. Then she will be happy for a quiet morning to sleep in while you are off diving.
Dive every other day, or at the most, 2 dive days followed by 1 full day with her.
Shore dives have the advantage of taking less time than mosts boat dives, and you have the advantage of getting one in at short notice.
Night dives that interfere with dinner plans are a no-no.
Bring others along. When her 2 sisters come along, she barely notices I'm gone as long as I show up for dinner, and also set aside a couple days to play tour guide.
Pick places that have more to do than just dive.
Alternate between solo dive vacations and vacation to a destination she wants to go to.
Bad weather days are family days.
Keep things in perspective and explicitly communicate on how to best coordinate so that you both have a good time.
I guess the old joke " My wife told me that if I didn't stop diving that she was going to leave me---God I'm going to miss her!" doesn't work here.
What everyone here has said is all good, but don't give up on her possibly diving some day. I taught a very good friend of mine(now) to dive about 6 or 7 years ago, his wife didn't want to have anything to do with it. Long story short-Dad, Mom and the 17 year old son all joined us on trip to Bonaire this Aug.-all divers now and loving it. Remember it's a womans perogative to change her mind.
What everyone here has said is all good, but don't give up on her possibly diving some day. I taught a very good friend of mine(now) to dive about 6 or 7 years ago, his wife didn't want to have anything to do with it. Long story short-Dad, Mom and the 17 year old son all joined us on trip to Bonaire this Aug.-all divers now and loving it. Remember it's a womans perogative to change her mind.
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