Bonairetrip
Contributor
I actually give the BF a pretty good shot at becoming a better diver and a better buddy.
What seems more likely:
a) The BF knows that many of his dive techniques are unsafe. He knows he creates huge amounts of stress with his GF. He knows that if she ever has an OOA, he will have no air for her. He thinks it is OK for him to be OOA. He thinks it is fine to put him and his GF in an unsafe position.
b) He thinks he is a pretty good diver. He has dove in many different locations and has never encountered what would consider a real problem. He has done enough dives that he considers himself to be at least an intermediate (if not advanced) diver. He thinks his buddy is a bit of a nervous nellie but he is working hard to make her more comfortable in the water by stretching her comfort zone a bit. Besides, his OOA was her fault because she insisted on the safety stop. And have you really even done a dive if your legs don't feel like you have been doing a mile swim in the pool?
I suspect the BF would say B is how he dives. In other words, I think the key is getting to the BF to recognize his diving is really closer to (a) than to (b).
One approach is to get him to dive with super solid divers. I would suggest a GUE fundies class as one way. Another way is to find a solid mentor.
What seems more likely:
a) The BF knows that many of his dive techniques are unsafe. He knows he creates huge amounts of stress with his GF. He knows that if she ever has an OOA, he will have no air for her. He thinks it is OK for him to be OOA. He thinks it is fine to put him and his GF in an unsafe position.
b) He thinks he is a pretty good diver. He has dove in many different locations and has never encountered what would consider a real problem. He has done enough dives that he considers himself to be at least an intermediate (if not advanced) diver. He thinks his buddy is a bit of a nervous nellie but he is working hard to make her more comfortable in the water by stretching her comfort zone a bit. Besides, his OOA was her fault because she insisted on the safety stop. And have you really even done a dive if your legs don't feel like you have been doing a mile swim in the pool?
I suspect the BF would say B is how he dives. In other words, I think the key is getting to the BF to recognize his diving is really closer to (a) than to (b).
One approach is to get him to dive with super solid divers. I would suggest a GUE fundies class as one way. Another way is to find a solid mentor.