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Ana, I think getting on a boat where the operator has told you he requires that people dive in buddy pairs (and therefore, anyone ELSE booking the boat expects to dive as a buddy) and then informing your instabuddy that you intend to execute what amounts to a solo dive, is very inconsiderate. I would be completely nonplussed by having someone tell me that, and I would politely excuse myself and go to the representative of the dive op and pitch a fit. Not every diver has the backbone I have; less experienced people may well blink and agree, on the assumption that this is common behavior, which it is NOT. (Now, whether your agreed-upon buddy, once in the water, behaves in any way differently from what you do, is another question.)
I don't want to brake rules of the board but I can reply to this question all day long, at least for this week until I go out of town again.
Maybe I'm not so clear communicating, would you like to read post #44 from gcarter ? that post describes the answer quite clear. Also this reply is not related to the OP and has the potential to be edited to maintain the "green zone" status of the forum, but here goes my response.
If I agree to dive with a particular charter is because they either allow me to dive solo, or they just want to assign me a buddy on paper. As in we will not be buddies but for their records, for whatever reasons they do not show that they do solo dives. So there is no backbone required, I do give a heads up to this person before getting underway to be sure everyone is cool about it.