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Any suggestions or comments?
For weighting in Mexico on their warm east coast, I believe you will both be wearing 3mm wetsuits and aluminum tanks. With these, you will probably need around 12 lbs of lead on your weight belt. 6 of this is normally to neutralize the aluminum tank, and the other 6 is to neutralize your body in the 3mm suit.
That can at least be your starting point. At the end of your first safety stop, on your first dive down there, you can perform your first buoyancy check to see if your B/C is empty, and whether you can hold the safety stop easily.
If your B/C is not empty at that point, then you should subtract a little weight, evenly, normally 2 lbs. when you are back in the boat.
If your B/C is indeed empty, but you cannot hold the safety stop without grasping the anchor line to hold yourself down, then you need to add a little weight, evenly, normally 2 lbs. at a time, before each subsequent dive, until you get it right.
If your B/C is empty and you are virtually floating, neutrally buoyant, while barely holding onto the anchor line, then your weighting is perfect. It might take you a couple of dives to get this right.
In this manner, you should be able to adjust your weighting with supervision of the D/M (tell him/her you two are new divers) and in proximity of the rest of the group.
It makes no sense to go off beach diving on your own just to figure your weighting out. And it is not worth bothering a D/M about before the first boat dive either.
You both probably need to buy your own 3mm suits before your trip. I have never heard of being able to rent anything smaller than a 5mm. It's quite warm down there on the Mexican east coast right now, so I doubt you will have access or need 5mm suits. If indeed you do, then just ask the D/M how much weight to start with, and go through the same drill.
The only other thing worth bringing would be your own regulator rented from your local dive store in Oregon. If this has a computer console on it, then you won't need to buy a computer now for yourself either. American (USA) dive shops normally have computer consoles attached to the regulator assemblies, and normally they work just fine. Normally they are Oceanics or Mares, two very popular rental brands.
The dive operation that you will be working with in Mexico will ask you prior to the first day what rental gear you will be needing from them. Tell them a B/C, and that's it. Tanks, weight belts, and weights will be on the boat.
That is normally how everything works. I agree with you about bringing your own regulator. I believe you will need to buy and bring your own 3mm wetsuits as well. I do not believe you will need to bring your own B/Cs however, since you can get that down there.
Also, bring a hood with you as well. If you find that you are starting to chill, then put on the hood, and it will make all the difference in the world!
Mexico is beautiful for scuba. You will love it, I am sure!