Well that is kind of my point, you refuse to be directed to participate in their fraud prevention methods, but you still want them to take the risk.
Maybe what I'm trying to say is "I'll do the best I can to help you identify fraud, Bank, and you do the best you can to keep my card working for me throughout my travels, even if that means suffering the occasional instance of fraud." In other words, we each do our part. Granted, the laws as they presently exist in the US say that the bank, not the cardholder, bears the whole risk. I can't help that. Maybe it shouldn't be that way.
I mean I get it if you are going to be in the outback, without cell service and you notified them AND they declined it, that sucks and I am with you.
The thing is, I can't always predict when I'm going to be incommunicado due to lack of cell service or lack of time to charge a battery or whatever. Sometimes I have every intention of checking email or whatever tomorrow, charging my phone when I get to a hotel, etc., but events conspire to keep me from doing it for another day or more. It's not just something like "the outback"; it could be that I'm doing 20 hours of back-to-back flights and getting in-flight or airport Internet service is unavailable, expensive, annoyingly slow, or whatever.
I am happy to notify the bank in advance
when I can, and glad to proactively check activity on my card
when I can. I just don't want that kind of ongoing diligence to be a
condition for me to be able to keep using my card throughout my travels. If I am incommunicado for whatever reason and return to civilization in need desperate need of a meal and a shower, I expect my card to work.