..t he most likely wants just a dad to share experiences with, not a combination dad + scuba instructor.
I agree and I don't want that either.
If he's fussy about where he's diving then he's not interested, give it a rest.
No sense in dragging him along. (Much better if he goes willingly)
OK, he has no problem telling me NO, or what he likes or doesn't like to do; I didn't force him to take OW and I've never forced him to go on a dive. He's never said he doesn't want to dive, if I ask him if he wants to go, I usually get the "Ya, OK, Sure, Cool" or some other 1 word response; that's about all I get these days. There is no doubt in my mind, that if he didn't want to go, he'd simply say NO. After I've asked him once, time permitting, I usually let it resinate for a few days a week or whatever and just check again to make sure he hasn't changed his mind. I don't think he feels required to dive with me cuz he knows I dive all the time and would with or without him; in short he has plenty of "outs". I think he likes being a scuba diver; it's not something any or many of his friends/peers have done, gives him a "cool" factor and he loves the water.
When and if he's intersted have him start with AOW in CA. That will give him a skills review as well as a profesional transition to cold water diving and gear.
An idea; I don't know how feasable since we live in AZ. I had planned on us taking AOW & Rescue at the end of the summer in AZ [same gear config as CA]; didn't have a chance at the beginning which would have been optimal and aleviated these concerns I'm sure.
I've been thinking about it; perhaps I'm just judging too heavily on 1 bad day; we all have em'. We did tons of shore diving in Maui with little to no moaning and groaning. It [memorial day weekend dive] was an early day; he was tired and the shore dives while conditions where optimal, still different, heavier wetsuit, more weight, longer walk, stairs, traffic, heat, etc. I think a nice boat dive in Catalina preceded by a super super solid pre dive briefing and dive planning [with suddle reminders slyly throw in], we could have a very fun day together; which is the point. Then formulate some kindof plan to keep his scuba independance and interest intact; perhaps a specialty of his choosing or AOW without me.
Garrett