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Enter SCUBA and depth. The person has to make a transition in-that the "surface" does not provide the safety blanket, as it once did. The diver becomes
dependent not only on themselves, but their equipment and buddy. Some people have difficulty with this more than others.
I've had students like this. I normally discuss how dependent they are on technology without them often realizing it. The brakes of your car, flying on an airline, are but two examples.
The instructor has to convince the student that safety lies with their training, equipment and buddy. The surface is no longer the holy grail. If your friend can understand and accept this, he shouldn't have a problem once he realizes that he can depend on those things. If not, there's always Bowling.