waaterpal
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Last week I was diving in Mexico and was the only diver with the divemaster. I only have about 50 dives and had expressed some anxiety to the dive shop because of an incident with faulty equipment when diving months earlier. So when the divemaster took my hand under water I thought he was making sure I felt comfortablel But he never let go! He took off my gloves, laced his fingers in mine, massaged my hands and fingers, "brushed" sand off my legs and arms, stroked my cheek with the back of his hand, clinked his face mask to mine.
Why didn't I clobber him? Who wants to tic off their DM at 60 feet with noone else there and when you are aleady anxious? We did the SI and, victim that I am , I said nothing, still wanting to believe he was being comforting (stupid). When we returned to the water for the 2nd tank right before we descended he said "Under the water you are my girlfriend." I should have gotten out of the wather right then but continued with the descent because I didn't want to cause a problem and was in denial. Guys, you may think this ridiculous but I am sure that many women can relate to this conditioning.
The second dive was the same as the first. Never let go of me. I left the dive shop (all men) as soon as I could and told the female DM the next day at the resort where we were staying (they were the on-site shop). She couldn't believe what I was saying, telling me repeatedly that He was her friend, he wouldn't, nice guy, etc. I gave her my phone number and asked her to have the owner call me. No call (but it is XMAS time). I emailed the shop two days ago asking that someone contact me about an "incident." I hope to hear from them in the next few days.
Question - women - has this ever happened to you?
Just how common is unsolicited physical contact from a DM?
Any advice as to how to handle this with the dive shop? The Dm is an experienced and long-time employee (and, as far as skills as a DM, he was excellent). I don't want someone to lose their job...but I feel molested.
NEXT TIME>> I will clobber anyone who tries this! I am 53yrs old, a strong professional woman and totally shut down in this.
Why didn't I clobber him? Who wants to tic off their DM at 60 feet with noone else there and when you are aleady anxious? We did the SI and, victim that I am , I said nothing, still wanting to believe he was being comforting (stupid). When we returned to the water for the 2nd tank right before we descended he said "Under the water you are my girlfriend." I should have gotten out of the wather right then but continued with the descent because I didn't want to cause a problem and was in denial. Guys, you may think this ridiculous but I am sure that many women can relate to this conditioning.
The second dive was the same as the first. Never let go of me. I left the dive shop (all men) as soon as I could and told the female DM the next day at the resort where we were staying (they were the on-site shop). She couldn't believe what I was saying, telling me repeatedly that He was her friend, he wouldn't, nice guy, etc. I gave her my phone number and asked her to have the owner call me. No call (but it is XMAS time). I emailed the shop two days ago asking that someone contact me about an "incident." I hope to hear from them in the next few days.
Question - women - has this ever happened to you?
Just how common is unsolicited physical contact from a DM?
Any advice as to how to handle this with the dive shop? The Dm is an experienced and long-time employee (and, as far as skills as a DM, he was excellent). I don't want someone to lose their job...but I feel molested.
NEXT TIME>> I will clobber anyone who tries this! I am 53yrs old, a strong professional woman and totally shut down in this.