Hi Bill,
First regarding tele converters, I no of NO tele converter made for mirrorless cameras. Several DSLR converters may be mounted using an adapter but I would not think that AF would be worse than “dreadfully slow” with the LA-EA1. Housing the EA-2 would be a challenge but not out of the question.
Regarding your question about a “fire only if focused” setting in a word no. But It may help to look at the settings you are using and see if they are adding to the problem.
Auto focus is like TTL, a lot of photographers think if they use both they should get perfect focus and exposure every time, that is just not the case.
These are a few things that might help you have more keepers. Shooting with a camera is like shooting with a firearm the smaller the target the more steady the aim must be. With macro and close-up how you steady yourself and the camera will have a lot to do with the results.
Shooting with the camera set to single-shot auto focus, not continuous AF will help lock the focus, Auto focus area set to multi AF is a result of the focusing area. This can be a help only if you see which zone is being picked by the AF system. In other words if the AF has focused on the background and not the main subject you will have an out of focus main subject but the camera will have done its job. This is one reason why the viewfinder is favored over the LCD by so many advanced photographers. It is just easier to see what is in focus looking into the viewfinder. With very wide angle the same many be true when shooting large animals like sharks. If you fill the frame with the shark and AF chances are the shark will be in focus, but if the sharks eye is not in focus the image is of little use.
Lenses with F/stops like F/5.6 focus much slower than lenses with F/stops like F/2 & F/2.8 because they collect less light, that is why they are almost always more expensive.
If you are moving from a quality DSLR & lenses to a mirrorless camera with a kit lens with the expectation that it will focus as fast and as accurately as your DSLR chances are you will be a bit disappointed.
I shoot everything out of the water first. If I add a new lens, change camera settings, add a new strobe, whatever I work out the bugs before going into the water. Chances are if I get sharp focus using the same setup out of the water that I do in the water the results will be the same when I get wet.
Last for macro and close-up use a focusing light to help assist auto focus.
Phil Rudin