>>OK, some guy comes up to you at the beach, you don't know him, and he tells you he's been AOW for four years. Well, how many dives is that? 10, 15, 30? I would treat him like you run a dive operation and would have asked about his last few dives, and just for reassurance, asked if he had his C-Card. If he takes it the wrong way, that is your way out of being his buddy. I mean, you guys didn't even take the time, it seems, to ask his name.<<
We tried to chat this guy up when he was asking about the float. We are newbies, we are curious, wed love to fondle other divers stuff if they let us and hear about their adventures. He was basically physically backing off all the time. You know its really hard to be the inquisitor when there is not much reciprocation in the communication. Next time I know that alone is enough of a sign.
Since he was not going to dive with but with our flag we didnt push, and once in water it was like someones going to get hurt if we stay on surface much longer. None of us could hear great through 7mm hoods, so going through the safeties was a pain the window for chatting was definitely lost. If he did not heed our friendly advice on purple face, we didnt feel like wed get much respect with other queries. In all honesty, on shore the guy did indicate he had not been active diver all those 4 yrs but he talked about being on charters, and some locations were AOW is required like Dutch Springs. We knew he had been diving last time the previous weekend. We certainly did not take the right attitude and while I dont even know how dive op would run this, I think we should have been more assertive when we both KNEW what we wanted.
>>If I was in that guys shoes, I would have looked at your group with a little hesitation for not asking me pertinent info about myself and diving experience. He sure sounded like a kid in a candy store, and so eager to dive, he jumped in the water ahead of his readiness level.<<
For being there, I think this is not an accurate description of his mentality or our attempt to find out about him. We have no experience, so I know we missed some good questions but we were asking him regular stuff even before we realized he was buddyless. The most glaring aspect in all this is that the guy knew all the time what HE was planning to do, and never asked anything about us. Only questions he had were about the float, and the beach. We voluntarily offered him the info we just certified. There was nothing eager about him, and we thought that maybe he is shy/clumsy which is OK with us. Maybe on charters you never need to do this, op pairs you up we wouldnt know since we've not been to one so we gave him a break. But its like he had to go but he didnt want to. Maybe he needed to get a dive under his belt before he was going to go somewhere, and he thought this would be easy.
P.S. Always look at this pair with hesitation, we've known to do some pretty weird stuff