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This topic does come up occasionally. I put my thoughts into an article: How to Dive with 'Insta-Buddies' - Scuba Tech Philippines
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Has this happened to you, what did you do, with hindsight what would you do different?
So basically three questions
1/ - "How do I confront an 'experienced' buddy about their behaviour"
2/ - "What can I do if the experienced diver is not open to feedback"
3/ - "How do I, as an experienced diver, remain open to feedback from my buddies"
Phil
So basically three questions
1/ - "How do I confront an 'experienced' buddy about their behaviour"
2/ - "What can I do if the experienced diver is not open to feedback"
3/ - "How do I, as an experienced diver, remain open to feedback from my buddies"
Phil
I think this is a really good question, because these problems do come up.
During a dive, if someone just isn't paying attention or isn't making an effort to "stay found", I have been known to abandon my own purposes for the dive and just decide to stick to the person like a burr. As long as they don't totally outswim me, I'm pretty good at it. It's annoying, and were I going to dive with the person again, it would need discussion. However, deliberately leaving the team is one of the few "I don't want to dive with you again" things in my book.
But there are other things, like buddies who don't want to do pre-dive checks, or who keep turning their fins into your face, or otherwise make the dive uncomfortable or unhappy. I always try to start the discussion by asking, "How did that go for you? Anything you'd like me to do differently next time?" That's a reasonable opening to make it a two-way street, although some divers are more open to critique than others. I'm lucky that I mostly dive in a group where debriefing is part of the culture, which helps.
But if anyone has any tips on how to debrief dive problems with a buddy who is also your HUSBAND, please let me know!
I think this is a really good question, because these problems do come up.
But if anyone has any tips on how to debrief dive problems with a buddy who is also your HUSBAND, please let me know!