hagerdherb:Maybe you could try to be open and honest with him and you wouldn't have to go through so much work...he's probably willing to give you what ever you want to be happy ...plus when your honest with him you might not have that feeling that he's lurking over your shoulder :lurk_2: ...just a thought http://www.scubaboard.com/images/smilies/Character%20Smiles/hmmmer.gif
I am forced to agree with hagerdherb.........I have been with my wife for a bit over 10 years now. In that time, the only time I have had a problem was when I misrepresented the situation to her. I just could not ask for more in a wife/best friend than that. No matter how bad I screwed up,....(and I kid you not-I HAVE screwed up big time), she was more concerned with my honesty of the situation than with whatever stupidity I was trying to accomplish.
With such a supporting wife, it's easy for me to be self serving and say "Honesty is the basis for all true marriages" but, truth be told, I have had it on the other end as well and had a endured a 9 year marriage to someone whom I thought was the "right one". I have been thru some dark,dark times and learned the hard way that sometimes you just have to let go and move on......
So......tell your partner the truth, its all you can hope for in return.