"My wife won't let me ..."

[TMHeimer]

We do Richard's No.2--Compromise. We snowbird on the N. Gulf, usually in Destin, but have in AL & MS too. MS has the casinos for her, but diving sucks without a 2.5 hr.+ trip to AL or the panhandle. Destin has better diving and access to PCB in an hour, but a long way West to the casinos. We tried Dauphin Island, AL as a midway point, but the diving sucked there too. So we're back to Destin. OK diving but not the best, and a Dog Track for her poker in P'cola. But mainly, the N. Gulf is way more affordable that S.FL--where there are some casinos and REALLY good diving. That would be a better compromise......

 

[Damselfish]

And people thought there was nothing to discuss in a "Men's Issues" forum.


My husband likes to tell the story of buying a housing for his first DSLR at a dive show. I wandered by at some point, asked if he was also getting the dome port, and continued on my way. The salesman told him it was his first instance of someones wife increasing a sale.

 

[frndrfoe]

"My wife won't let me ..."

= I don't want to and don't want to seem responsible for that choice.

 

[Trace Malinowski]

And people thought there was nothing to discuss in a "Men's Issues" forum.


My husband likes to tell the story of buying a housing for his first DSLR at a dive show. I wandered by at some point, asked if he was also getting the dome port, and continued on my way. The salesman told him it was his first instance of someones wife increasing a sale.

This is my favorite post of the month.

 

[AZNetEng]

IMO the whole "Ill have to ask my wife" or "My wife wont let me is a guy saying "I dont want to, but I dont want you thinking less of me for not wanting to, so Ill blame her"

I realize Im pretty lucky. My wife and I share our hobbies. Motorcycles, shooting, outdoors, scuba and others. We dont make decisions without discussing things as a rule.

YMMV.

 

[RandomGuy1]

For me, I have said my wife won't let me. What that actually means is my wife probably would let me, but wouldn't be terribly happy about it, and it isn't worth the grief for me to push the issue. She is a non-diver, and hasn't really drawn a line for me with diving, other than to ask me if that is safe and remind me that I have a 1 year old to think about.
For vacations, there is a reason my dive vacation is in Massachusetts this year. Her extended family lives there.

 

[Bubblesong]

I may be the rare female whose husband tries to put the brakes on my diving. He got me into starting, but isn't as fired up as I am.
In contrast this 52 year old guy plays ice hockey, was hospitalized for three days and hurting for months and I said "No More Ice Hockey!" He still plays in three leagues.

 

[Trace Malinowski]

I think richiewrt hit a bullseye in my best bud's case.

For those mentioning family time, Tom Scott of Underwhere? Charters in Brockville, ON started a $25 CAD 6 PM dive with a strict 1 hour run to get people (mostly men) diving after work and home for dinner. It's very popular.

 

[Ayisha]

I am actually losing count of how many misogynist posts Trace has made over the years. Disappointed yet again. It is heartening to see the posts of many of the men and women who believe in or have a partnership between equals. I'm with many of the people who said that using the partner as an excuse is difficult to overcome and allows them to avoid explaining what may be the real reason. Any attached person who has any significant (monetary or time) investment in diving, dive training, equipment, vacations, etc. probably already has at least a fairly understanding partner. You would need to be able to recognize the right clientele (experience, ability, financial means, motivation) to proceed in their training and commit to training with you.

 

[flyboy08]

"My wife won't let me ..." I hear that a lot with increasing regularity. It seems to snap out of a man's mouth as quickly as a "Ten-hut!" brings a platoon to attention. It might be one of the only vocal command signals in diving because it seems any question about spending money in the industry commands a man to involve his wife.

"My wife won't let me go diving."

"My wife won't let me buy it."

"My wife won't let me take that class."

"My wife will let me dive, but never in a cave."

If you are lucky, he may be emancipated enough to say, "I have to ask my wife ..." I grew up in a world where men didn't have to ask. I grew up in a home where my mother was a college professor and my father had a high school diploma and a DD-214. They told each other (not with a command voice) what they were going to do, if my dad wanted to go hunting or fishing, or, my mom wanted to ride her horse, or take us kids somewhere. If it came to spending money they'd discuss it, but it was usually when to buy and not "if." How could my mom get new furniture or how could my dad get a new table saw and stay on budget.

Something seems to have happened to men. Did chivalry meet feminism and surrender the jewels? Are wives really not letting men do things? Have men become like children having to ask "mommy?" Or, are men just throwing their wives under the bus because it is the ultimate excuse?

Let me ask my wife...I'll get back to you.



I dive, fly and ride motorcycles around the world...I married a keeper...and she dives as well.