This is a open non confrontational letter to dive masters that we will encounter on dive boats for non instructional boat ride to the site encounter
dear divemaster
When I am geared up waiting to leave the boat and you reach toward my gear and I say no thank you I have it, please don't do that, please don't touch my gear . I really mean it . Please don't take it upon your self to continue to adjust my gear turn my tank valve ect . It will not only irritate me but it will negatively affect your tip if you don't immediately retract your hand.
sincerely
the diver from this weekend that appeared to have forgotten to tip you at the end of the trip
I think that Herb's OP has evolved into an entirely different subject other should a DM touch a diver's gear or not after being asked not to.
Herbs OP was not whether a DM should or should not touch a divers equipment to check for gas, but respect the divers request not to when the diver plainly communicated this. Herb clearly stated that he "Told the DM NOT to touch his gear" and the DM continued to disregard Herb's request. From my point of view the DM overstepped their boundaries. The DM could have verified whether Herb's gas was turned on or not through more tactful means other than the "touchy-feely" means.
IMO the primary distinction between a good DM and a functional DM is the Functional Divemaster follows orders no matter what, he knows what to do (pass a course and read the book) but does not understand the why, when or how behind the task; and a Good Divemaster understands the why, the how, the when and the where behind their tasks. The Good DM will use tact, patience and good customer & situational awareness when performing their tasks in compliance with their dive operators policies. "One size does not fit every situation." Not everyone has been taught to critically think for themselves and require, if not desire, step-by-step instructions. Too many times leaders issues the one-fits-all instructions to helpers who know (or fear for their job) only that "one-fits-all" method(s). I understand a Dive Operators responsibility to run a safe dive trip. There can be a safe balance between the dive operations responsibilities for the inexperienced diver and the experienced diver and it starts with dialog.
That is my 2¢ to Herbs OP.